'Her hair is an eye sore': Bridezilla wants sister to change her appearance so that she's more aesthetic for her wedding photos

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Brad Dickson • Managing Editor
Oct 30, 2022 4:00 PM EDT

Should someone have to change their appearance for your wedding? To what degree? These are important factors that come into play in this thread and are in need of consideration.

This bride, Reddit user u/kjally76, posted her story to Reddit's r/AITA (Am I the A**hole) subreddit, wondering if she was in the wrong for the events that had taken place leading up to her wedding. She has been planning every last detail with careful thought but has met resistance in her carefully laid plans when it comes to her younger sister.

This sister is determined to maintain her appearance and refuses to change it in the ways that u/kjally76 is requesting. Her obstinate refusals have been a source of frustration for the bride, who is threatening to "Hulk Out" at any moment. 

There was an issue with the dress color, then an issue with the hair, and at every step of the way, the younger sister had continued to refuse. Some of the comments the bride has made in the post and her general attitude has led Redditors to decree that she is the "A**hole" here. I would hold that the younger sister's refusal to cooperate in any reasonable way means that they both are in the wrong or that "Everyone Sucks Here."

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Keep reading to see the comments, reactions, and responses below. For more wild brides, check out this one that chucked a waitress out of her wedding for being too… attractive? 

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  • 01
    Font - Posted by u/kjally76 20 hours ago AITA for asking my (25f) sister (20f) to fix her overgrown/two before my wedding? toned hair Asshole My (26f) wedding is in 3 months. Both of my sisters (Sadie 29f, Olivia 20f) are my MOH's. My wedding is going to be elegant and big, as groom and I have a lot of friends/family and we've always dreamt of an extravagant wedding. I have a good relationship with both sisters, however my younger sister, Olivia, has made the process a bit difficult as a bridesm
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    Font - I didn't hear anything else about the dresses, but now I'm in a predicament with her again and I'm not sure if I've made a mistake for making such a big deal of this. Olivia regularly highlighted her dark brown hair with blonde for years, but decided about a year ago to grow it out and let it get healthy, meaning no dye. A month or so in, her hair didn't look terrible, more like a balayage, but now we're around the year mark and her roots are straight up brown and there's a straight line,
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    Font - I told her I would pay for anything she wanted done to it, as long as her roots were at least a BIT blended for the wedding. She says that she doesn't want to put anymore chemicals on it and is leaving it and I won't change her mind. I told my hair dresser about Olivia's POV (we go to the same hairdresser) and she told me that there are plenty of things she can do for her that can make her hair look blended and still be healthy. Olivia still refuses, despite me offering to pay and telling
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    Font - ETA-I am overwhelmed with responses (mostly YTA votes) and I want to add a couple of things. My sister doesn't want her hair up because she doesn't like how it looks up. People are inventing medical reasons that simply do not apply to her. She doesn't like her hair up, that's her reasoning. Her dress color WAS made a big deal of until I suggest she can get a spray tan, because I'm not changing the colors of my wedding this close to it. I don't have enough characters to add in every detail
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    Font - I don't expect her to dye her hair completely and put bleach on it again, I just asked her to let our stylist do ANYTHING she can to blend the roots. Stylist said she could easily do a gloss with NON permanent dye and then a hair treatment to ensure her hair is still healthy. Sister won't go for it still (and to answer the question, no, sister does not get her hair trimmed. She is trying to grow it while still not taking the right steps to do so). I feel like I'm out of options as everyth
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    Font - Left-Car6520 - 1 day ago 13 S Craptain [192] Look to be completely honest if your wedding pictures are the most important thing in your life, to the point where someone else's hair colour is going to bother you enough to fight about it, you really need to re-evaluate your life priorities. It simply, truly, does not matter that much. 10 17.0k CrankyBiker 16 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Reply Share This. If all you care about is the image, then you are devaluing every substantive relationship i
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    Font - chernaboggles 20 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [18] YTA. Nobody cares about this except you. The guests don't care if a bridesmaid has two-toned hair. The wedding pictures will end up in an album that sits out and gets glanced through every couple of years (maybe), or hanging in dusty frames in various family homes. If it's a big wedding, by your 10th anniversary you won't even remember the names of all your guests or why they were invited. Enjoy your extravagant wedding, but don't be the br
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    Rectangle - WhoFears Death - 20 hr. ago [51] Pooperintendant YTA. You do not get to dictate decisions that can't be removed at the end of the day. Dress: yes. Spray tan: no. Hair up or down: maybe, depending on existing length and type. Color: no. Bridesmaids aren't dolls or props. They are people you care about and care about you that you want to share a joyous moment with. Get new priorities. 3.4k Reply Share
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    Font - ww ServelanDarrow 20 hr. ago Pooperintendant [69] Well, you are going to get called a Bridezilla big time on here; but, with a sigh, I'm going to say the line of NAH/ESH (and yes, I realize to reddit that's not a thing.) You are having a formal wedding and want nice pictures, it's not her wedding but it is her hair and she doesn't want to change it. And you are siblings and don't want to give in to each other. If I were her I would just wear it up but imo she's not going to accommodate yo
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    Font - ha13ra 19 hr. ago Partassipant [2] NTA - I can't understand why she can't have her hair in an updo at least for the ceremony and pictures. For all of the y t a votes, it's not about the colour, it's about how tacky and unaesthetically outgrown roots look. She can dye them or not dye them however she likes, but for one day she can have them up and not insist on having them down in plain view of the photos. For all those suggesting Photoshop: you do understand that the bride will have to pa
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    Font - boymum83 19 hr. ago . I'm going with ESH. While she should not be made to dye her hair for your wedding, I do believe it's is an acceptable compromise for her to agree to have her hair up for the day and she is being pretty difficult if she won't even do that. 1.2k Reply Share
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    Font - bmidontcare 14 hr. ago S Asshole Aficionado [12] Apparently everyone voting didn't read the actual post, because OP stated that her sister is refusing to even put her hair up for the wedding - colouring it isn't the only option OP gave her! Requesting that she do something about her roots if she wants to have her hair down is perfectly acceptable to me, because you're giving her a choice that isn't permanent. Refusing to do anything to blend the colours while also demanding her hair be do
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    Font - linnie1 20 hr. ago She should at least compromise and wear it up. NTA 637 Reply Share imsorrydontyellatme 9 hr. ago Partassipant [1] And I thought it was up to the bride how the bridesmaids wore their hair for the wedding. 112 Reply Share
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